The Spiritual side of Cancer

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The Spiritual Side of Cancer 

Chapter One: The Solution is Within the Problem

Finding The Solution To Cancer Through Art-Making

I see two spiritual sides to cancer: one is personal and the other is collective. Here is a one element concerning the personal side that worked for me in terms of healing from cancer and many other challenges..

First of all, knowing that I am an eternal being, I know that any darkness in my life contains within it the light. The solution to any problem is within the problem. That’s hard to describe in more words because words are so left brained and so inadequate to indicate truths. So at times, when I’m just using my left brain I can’t comprehend those words—“the solution is within the problem.”  However, when I am in my right brain—functioning from there, I am connecting with my Inner Being—my Higher Mind and Self. That part of me knows what that means—“the solution is within the problem”—and how to access and use it.

So to access a fuller understanding of those words as relates to cancer I can do things that will trigger a shift to the right hemisphere of the brain—thereby giving me better access to Higher Wisdom. One of the best ways, for me to do this is to make art. When I say this to others the frequent response is—“Oh I couldn’t do that. I can’t draw a straight line.” And if I say, “Everyone can make art,” I get dubious looks or even angry denial “No! I cannot!”

So if you can't draw a straight line--make a scribble! Make it ugly. Allow it to express your feelings. Use any medium: paint, pencil, charcoal, pastels, ink, magic marker. Take a fat black magic marker and scribble your feelings about having this illness.

So, anyone can make "art." However, the problem here is that the person hearing those words—“You can make art,” associates art with pictures and sculptures in museums and galleries.  They might recall getting D’s in art in grammar school. Or they might even recall making art as a child, and having their art compared with another’s art, or criticized or laughed at. After that they learned to compare their own to others—and always to the diminution of their own art. Then they stopped trying. Very sad.

So there may be a lot of old false programming of beliefs around art-making to get over. But every child knows how to play with paint or clay (or found objects, stones, fabric etc.) and to like what they create—without looking at anyone else’s, or listening to a teacher (or inner critic) who tries to disparage or correct them.

 I highly recommend that people forget all they think they know about art, art-making and artists and just allow it to be playing with color and form. Get some paints and paper --card or cover stock is nice. And get some magic markers or a box of children’s water colors or poster paint, and just start playing with it. If you use paper with watercolor, you might like to tape it to the table or a clipboard with masking tape first. Or better yet—buy some good water color paper.  Then shut off the left brain critic and judge and just have at it. I suggest that people just do, just enjoy as a child does, and shut the critic out. Make a mess deliberately if you like—and then love it. Be proud of it. Do it again and again. Soon the process will shift you to the right brain and when done with your art, you can, from there, ask your Inner Being, your wise Self, why you have cancer and what the solution is. Apply the answer. Write down the answer in a journal; and go on making art day after day-- just for fun.

Thus art-making can put you in a right brain state, and from there you can more easily see how... 

the solution is within the problem. 

If you need more clarification try this: make a line drawing of this Vesica Piscis symbol:

Then imagine that the large outer circle is your Divine Self, Your Inner Being, Your Higher Self -- whatever you like to call your vast Self. Imagine that the almond shape in the center (called The Mandorla) is the solution. Imigine that one of the smaller circles is healthy you and the other is sick you. The almond shape suggests that there is a lowest common denominator between the two you's.  

For example, lets say you have breast cancer. You should think about what the breasts stand for , symbolically...Nurturing? Let's call it nurturing. So healthy you likes to nurture others ...AND YOUR SELF.  But the unhealthy you has been taught to forget herself and just nurture others! So the center represents  nurturing balanced between self and other. But having this illness tells you you are out of balance. So now draw the Vesica Piscis symbol again, but make the inner circles represent how much you nurture yourself and how much you nurture others. The "others" circle will be larger.

Now study these two out of balance circles and write inside of each what you do in the way of nurturing -- yourself and others. Are they in balance? And the balance may change from day to day. One day you might feel like just nurturing yourself-- for one day, one month, one year, one lifetime! You choose.

Your Inner Child is an excellent source of truth--true feelings. So ask your inner child for guidance through out this exercise. And trust her. She is the part of you that is mostly closely connected to your Inner Being--that most wise part of yourself. Her feelings are your truest feelings. We have culturally inculcated feelings too, but set those aside for now. Examine them later for Truth according to your Inner Child. Her feelings are messages from your Inner Being. You can absolutely trust them.

So now can you see that the solution is within the problem? The problem, in this case was being out of balance around the issue of nurturing. Your cultural beliefs were in conflict with your True Knowing, which comes from your Inner Being via your Inner Child. 

The final step is to act on your new beliefs and understanding about "nurturing." You could start cutting back or even eliminating all the places in your life where you are doing too much for others. 

I had breast cancer and was extremely out of balance around the issue of nurturing. I was always giving and trying to get rid of free floating guilt by over-giving. It wasn't working. It was just creating justifiable resentment in my Inner Child. And I ended up eliminating ALL of the things I was doing for others, except for raising my two small children. I stopped working and went on welfare for  2.5 years. It was so healing! The mass in my breast disappeared within days of my revelation, and has never returned. I was 28 then. I am 77 now.

It was soon after my revelation that I miraculously was able to move to a beautiful new home in the country, that cost only $500 a month. And I discovered a federal program that would pay even that, since I had no income. I began painting  a great deal, ( I painted the polar bear at the top of this page to express my ferocious protectiveness around my new spiritual understanding, since most people did not understand it and would deride it.) I also began writing. I spent a great deal of time in Nature and began to have truly magical events happen in that developing relationship. It took a few years to really work my healing revelation into my whole life, but as I did, I became healthier and healthier. The basic issue was 

EMOTIONAL HONESTY WITH MYSELF AND OTHERS. Both were done kindly.

Eventually I grew to have perfect health. At 77 I use no medicines--either conventional or alternative--and I use no doctors or hospitals or even alternative healers. If I get a slight symptom of illness I heal my self using the Vesica Piscis Method. That's all I need. I nip it in the bud, and never get sick.

OUR LIMITING BELIFS ABOUT HEALING

 The thing is that we are all in the grips of a pan-cultural limiting belief--including doctors. And since doctors are given a very left brained , intellectually, rationally oriented education, the part of them that could have led them and medical science to our true healing powers has, basically, been educated out of them. So they cast about within the narrow confines of the intellect or ego-mind...for an answer that is not in that arena at all!

Lester Levenson, originator of The Sedona Method found this out for himself. He was a brilliant man with several graduate degrees. But had become extremely unhappy and ill. The doctors gave him 2 weeks to live. Facing that he began to explore beyond his intellectual/rational mind and by 3 months later he had found all of the answers within--which is where I found them as well. He healed fully--not only his body, but his relationships and his understanding of money. He had "worked hard and amassed a fortune" but then discovered the money hadn't been coming from his hard work or genius, but from his expectation. He simplified his expectation of how money could come to him and became so wealthy he could give it all away--now knowing how he could manifest whatever he desired, very quickly. He went on to live another 40 years--in excellent health and happiness.

Unfortunately most people who are sick or who are caring for a loved one who is sick are functioning within the same limitations Lester faced at first--a belief that healing must come from some outside source. It is nobody's fault that they do not understand the enormous power within  themselves. It's been educated out of them. (We all had it as babies). 

It is just that we are only beginning to emerge from "The Dark Ages," of healing. Our spiritual evolution is calling us to move into the light, but it can only invite. God only invites. God does not tell us what to do. God has given us the great gift of the freedom to use our consciousness however we wish. And basically we are constantly faced with a choice of using our small mind or our large mind from the moment we awaken in the morning til we fall asleep at night. Unfortunately--or, since everything is actually perfect, fortunately--we are operating in the dark. The answer is there, but we must literally FEEL  around for it.

I was listening to an audio book last evening called Heaven is Real by Todd Burpo. And I saw this problem strung out among all of the incidents which are recorded in the book. The problem is that we are taught to THINK  rather than to FEEL.

In the true story, the Rev. Burpo, his wife and two children have been having a very bad time of it, but seemingly having come to the end of a long string of Job-like challenges, they take a road trip to celebrate. By the way, those Job-like challenges could have led the family to pre-knowledge that worse was coming if they did not attend to the messages they were getting and do something about it.

Specifically the father had broken his leg and then had gotten breast cancer. Had he been educated to keep his right brain/female mind --the mind he was born with--functioning he could have seen that the broken leg was a message likely about not standing up for himself. And later the breast cancer could have suggested that he was nurturing others more than his inner child was happy with. Pastors are supposed to be selfless in our silly society. No one is. We are all meant to put ourselves first in an enlightened-loving way. But I suspect he did not know that. And his ignoring it was scaring the heck out of his inner child. When we don't stand up for ourselves and put our own needs first it leaves a deep, child like part of ourselves feeling very insecure.

So then in that family gestalt, the youngest child, Colton agreed on some higher level, to be the one who expressed the problem for the family in the next round of messages. He got appendicitis--which is a physical representation of  extreme fear. He was showing his Dad that man's fears, on his own child level. By the way, we do not out-grow childish ways--and are not meant to. Childhood is not left behind. It remains as our foundation and as such needs constant vigilant attention. "Do I feel happy in my child-self?" we need to ask ourselves frequently. But they did know about this.

So, they encountered yet another staggering challenge in the form of the near-death of their 4 year old child Colton. He develops appendicitis but the doctors and medical technicians consistently misdiagnose the child's problem and he becomes inexorably worse until he is on the brink of dying. The symbolism of the "trusted doctors" being untrustworthy,  I interpret as a symbol of both the father's and the doctors' (and likely the wife's too) over reliance on the rational/intellectual mind. Our whole culture does this, but many are moving beyond this--as we are all meant and all will eventually. The intellect is NOT reliable by itself. It overestimates its own intelligence and it eschews the far greater intelligence of the intuitive, super-rational mind. They are meant to work together with the intuitive mind leading the way.

So Colton's parents have been extremely compliant with the doctors, technicians and hospital staff--trusting that they all know more than themselves. BIG MISTAKE.

The Vesica Piscis symbol tells us --ALL IS WITHIN. Their authority lay within themselves--most especially within the child himself.

At the very beginning they told the doctor, and continued to mention, that they believed it was appendicitis. However, the doctors  all insisted that their tests were reliable and that they did not point to appendicitis. So they did not treat him for that...and he got sicker.

The docotors' rational minds were saying "it's not appendicitis" and the parents' intuitive minds were telling them " it IS appendicitis." And the latter were correct. The problem was that for 2 weeks they vetoed the information they were receiving from the right brain/intuitive mind and allowed the intellect/left brain remain dominant--both in themselves and in the doctors.

So it could have ended tragically. Colton's father, as a pastor, had seen many people die. He saw death in the face of his extremely emaciated, hollow-eyed, limp child, who had not eaten for 2 weeks and who had been throwing up constantly.

When he allowed that in fully he finally broke emotionally. He raged at God and with that emotional movement his God-Self was able to reach his soul-personality self and kick him into action.
He removed his son from that hospital, took him to another, where he was immediately diagnosed correctly and operated on. He did recover fully.

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Intuition is correct 100% of the time, but being able to tell the difference between an intuitive thought and an intellectual "good idea" is a subtle art. It can and will be learned. But it is a process, albeit an inevitable one for all who wish to "go home."

As the human race grows it can choose to descend into yet more darkness. God will allow more suffering if people choose that. But truly the way to end suffering is to turn inward. Meditate on the Vesica Piscis symbol and it will help you to do this.

We need to stop projecting power and responsibility out onto others--especially doctors, hospitals, pharmaceutical companies and insurance companies. We have the power to keep healthy and to never need any of the above. I do--at this point however--believe that if we have created things like ruptured appendices, or heart failure, or severe wounds that we should avail ourselves of the emergency measures that allopathic medicine offers.

But in conjunction with that, in order to bring about healing as quickly as possible we should be turning within and asking ourselves, "how did I create this reality? What is the message behind this? What misalignment have I created  between  my intellectual beliefs and what is really true?" The Great Mother is Truth --both emotional and factual--and as extensions of her we want to telling ourselves and others the Truth as often as we can. 

Emotional truth is the most important Truth. For our emotions are messages from our God-Center within. If we are experiencing negative emotions around something, we would be wise to move away from whatever we are feeling negative about. If we are feeling positive emotions about something, we are safest to move toward it.

These emotions are often in conflict with seeming "rational truth" and "practicality" or so-called fact, and "what is seemingly real." Reality is only a thought form we have built up by focusing on something alone or together with others. All negative events and things are thought forms we have miscreated by being out of alignment with Truth. So to focus on them and fight them is only to add energy to that false thought form. It is not real. WE change our reality  by following our positive emotions and staying focused on the good things we want. We create feelings and vibrations first  that later become events and things.

And I am not talking about pasting "happy faces" on everything. We must tell ourselves the Truth. If we are feeling badly, we must allow those feelings. We must face and feel them. And when we do, then an inner psycho-spiritual movement is set up.  We automatically begin to move in the direction of healing and all that is happier. We can consciously assist that process by using our will power to avoid thinking the same old negative beliefs, and by asserting our will power to find some belief or observation that feels even slightly better. These are just choices and choices are powerful. We are here to make choices.

Slowly we can work our way out of negative thought patterns to the wholly positive ones that are Truth.

So God does not want us to suffer. When we find ourselves suffering--even a little--we can know that we have gone off the rails somewhere; that we are now out of alignment with The Divine at the center of our being--that lovely place with the beautifully feminine feel to it. (By the way--most cultures refer to the soul as "she").

As mentioned above, in the book Heaven is Real, the author, Rev. Todd Burpo relates that eventually both he and his wife reached emotional breaking points. After weeks of  struggling to trust the doctors and of stuffing their doubts and anger about the fact that Colton was only getting worse and was now close to death, they both cracked--she in tears, he in rage. Both are good.

And with that cracking--that allowing of emotional authenticity --they suddenly were able to move forward and to make a decision to remove Colton from the hospital where he had not been helped and to move him to another where he was quickly diagnosed as having a ruptured appendix. He was operated on and eventually all the toxins were removed from his body and he is now a normal 15 year old (in 2014).

Again, as I mentioned earlier, the family, in my estimation, was getting many strong messages prior to Colton's nearly dying, that indicated they were out of alignment with emotional and spiritual Truth. Religion is hard on ministers and priests. They are expected to be Christ-like or God-like without having gone through everything He went through to get there organically. They attempt to put on a superficial imitation of Him and when they cannot (because they have not gone through all of the steps) they end up often times being quite inauthentic. They stuff natural feelings, or hide them. They avoid the actions that would have flowed naturally from those judged and rejected feelings, and in doing so sometimes end up doing great harm to themselves and others.

We are not perfect. But we are perfectly imperfect. The Great Mother wants desperately for us to feel Her unconditional love for us--and to have it for ourselves--no matter what we have done "wrong." At the same time She offers constant guidance away from hurtful beliefs and actions and towards positive ones. But she does not judge us.

Many pastors are quite judgmental, overtly towards themselves and sometimes covertly towards others--especially their own family. Oftentimes there is a son who acts out all that the pastor-father is repressing. Colton's sister says of him, "He may have died and gone to heaven, but he's no angel." The father is repressing his feelings and the actions they would lead to naturally because he judges them to be bad or wrong or un-Christian. And so the son acts it out for him. The father judges his misbehavior or fails to understand its origin and so tries to fix the son. But the only fix is within himself. Healing comes from unconditional acceptance of all thoughts and beliefs--no matter how "sinful" some might think them. It comes from a slow working away to the foundations of those thoughts, beliefs and feelings until one finds the gem of Truth--a positive thing that The Great Mother wants you to have! 

Many religions have great laundry lists of "sins," most of which are false. 

There is only one sin, in Truth, that I have discovered so far. It is that:

Violence against the self or others, while God allows it, is at the same time  strongly discouraged. And one of the most violent things one can do to oneself or others is to not allow their emotional honesty. For it cuts them off from God. 

So somehow the family--in all their well-meaning efforts--were out of touch with what God really wanted for them--and so they suffered for their rejection and resistance by creating broken legs, breast cancer, gall stones etc. all in the year prior to Colton's near death experience. And with that experience I think they must have had some deep inner shifts in their beliefs, for things got better.

 Todd began working on the book. They perhaps deepened their trust in God to take care of them. And Colton had his precious experience of heaven as well as a first hand understanding that he has an eternal soul that is separate from the body and which does survive death. We all do. I am sure there were others. Breast cancer suggests nurturing others before the self and harboring hidden resentments about it. Broken legs suggest not moving in a new direction one is being called to or not standing up for one's self. Gall stones suggests that one might be living in a galling situation that one is trying to accept, but without allowing for the certainty that improvement is possible and desirable.

In the book, Todd Burpo relates  his son's NDE's including his consciousness leaving his body and going to heaven where he received much comfort and assistance. He also tells about how Colton was able to move around the hospital in his out-of-body-state and to make observations that were later verified.

This brings me back again to the most important thing to know, and the reason why the Vesica Piscis Method works. We are all pure consciousness--now and always. We put on physical bodies for the major purpose of giving ourselves conscious feed back about the condition of our consciousness...of our the mental/emotional state of our soul personality selves (SPS).

If our SPS is a little out of alignment with our God Center Self (GCS) then we get a hang nail or a stubbed toe or something else minor. If we are a lot out of alignment we get very sick. Or we have a bad "accident."

So, it is never enough to just heal the cancer with this method. One must continue to use the basic method to heal oneself of everything that arises--including minor things. Learn to nip things in the bud.  Because negative or limiting beliefs are formed by repeatedly thinking an out-of-alignment-thought. There will always be some negative sign when we first start to go off the rails. But I will expand on that in another post.

A wise friend of mine noticed that she was often stumbling  as she walked down the sidewalks of her city. She began to pay attention to what thoughts she had been thinking just before her misstep and realized that she was always  thinking some critical thought about someone just before it. When she started to make an effort to consciously allow her feelings about the person... and  to take them as a reflection of how she was feeling about herself, and then to allow more positive feelings about herself and others...she stopped stumbling so often.

We are here to expand. Expansion is always positive. It always feels good. When we diminish ourselves by espousing limiting or negative beliefs we literally shrink, spiritually.

So, most doctors do the best they can within the limitations of their understanding. Unfortunately medical schools not only teach a purely superficial, physical, intellectual approach to healing (one that never works) [but more on that later] and they also oftentimes teach their students a great arrogance and authority along with their science. They teach very little about respect for their clients; and nothing about eliciting their clients' own knowledge of their bodies and their powers of self-healing power.  

But we are not victims. We are just here to learn to not revere the outside--outside authorities or so-called " reality." We are here to learn to stop projecting our own power, responsibility, beauty, wisdom, knowledge and authority out onto others. We are here to learn to turn inward and trust our own innate knowingness.

 We create our own reality. We build it up like a house,  brick by brick  and then it is suddenly done and we move in. We live in it. But if it is not a happy home we can repair it, or tear it down, or  just move altogether. A home that has cancer in it can be remodeled. Keep the best, the positive, and eschew the rest. Allowing all feelings is positive.

Keep working on your home by creating beautiful comfortable renovations and additions (new positive beliefs) that feel God-Centered. As we do this we get healthier and healthier in every way.

THE ROOTS OF CANCER

Cancer has a spiritual component that is at the root of the physical manifestation. In order to eradicate cancer one must always remove or change the negative emotional, mental, spiritual cause. When that is done--healing happens. However, any time cancer has been healed--seemingly-- due to surgery, or chemo, or radiation or herbs or acupuncture, or after  the application of any  purely physical level treatment has been applied, this is a misunderstanding.  These purely physical level treatments may seem to have caused healing--but that is not the case.

 Every time--without exception--the cause of healing is actually mental and emotional changes the person has made within themselves. When positive changes happen in the mind  and heart  of the person suffering with cancer, healing begins.  IT WILL ALWAYS BE THOSE CHANGES AT THOSE LEVELS THAT HEALED THE PERSON AND NOTHING ELSE.

However, the coincidental application of the physical level treatments oftentimes confuses where responsibility should be assigned.  The physical treatments usually get the credit for the cure. But this is simply not a true assessment of what actually happened.

Many people have healed themselves of cancer by applying psycho-spiritual corrections--in their consciousness only. Our bodies are out-growths of our consciousness. The health of our consciousness is always reflected in our bodies. Cancer is simply an outgrowth of some very serious misconceptions about what is true. Cancer is a symbol of some negative erroneous assumption that has been adopted into the person's belief system.  And when it is removed and replaced with THE TRUTH, the body very quickly heals.

Sometimes the problematic belief is painted so big and so bright, as it were, that it is hard to see. It is often a culturally accepted belief. Or the belief may involve thoughts and feelings about someone very close to the person who is dealing with cancer. In fact this is very often the case. The ego-mind has drawn a boundary around that belief and/or that person and has posted KEEP OUT  signs. In other words this is an area that feels very fragile to the person.  They will not look at this area because there is likely a lot of shame or fear attached to it.

For example, cancer is very often related to feelings of anger towards parents or spouses or children. But the ego-mind may very well have a belief that certain unhappiness will ensue if the problematic relationship is examined too closely--and if genuine feelings about that person they are close to were to be honestly felt--why then the whole relationship might fall apart! And the ego mind believes that that would be a very bad thing for its happiness.

I can only say that feelings can always be trusted, in fact it is a requirement that feelings be trusted in order to be happy and to move forward with any kind of psychological or spiritual growth. Emotional honesty is crucial.

The elephant in the living room must be acknowledged and embraced as the sign of good fortune that he is. Climb up on his back and he will carry you HOME!

So let's plunge right in. Cancer is often related to long held anger and resentment that is now festering and growing--and is hidden under the surface of the conscious mind. It is not hard to access it, even though it may be "sub conscious."  The  so-called subconscious is just the corner of our mind where we have swept all the awareness of  events and feelings that we felt we could not face at the time they happened. However, once these events and feelings are faced and the belief is turned 180 degrees around, AND, action has been taken on the new positive belief--the body heals--oftentimes miraculously quickly. And sometimes it happens so naturally and  that the miracle is not noticed!

The tumor was there and growing for months. The natural inner mind/emotion/action changes were made. And very shortly after that the tumor was simply not there! It may be like it never existed. So there may be a temptation to not give yourself credit for having healed yourself. 

Please do not do this. For this is a healing method that can and should be applied to everything. As life progresses new misconceptions will arise, and if they are held long enough a new illness will arise. So at that point you will need to look back at the fact that you healed yourself of cancer, and you can heal yourself of this new thing too.

I have gotten to the place in my life where I do not wait for illnesses and bodily discomforts to turn into serious illnesses. All big illness are preceded by a series of minor but increasingly emphatic bodily disturbances that should be paid attention to. Any thing other than perfect health indicates that something is off in our belief system. We have gotten ahold of an incorrect assumption.

 And as I said earlier some of these incorrect assumptions may be cultural ones for which you have been rewarded. Someone patted you on the head and said "Good little girl (or boy)."  But often these beliefs simply served someone other than you. So they reaped some immediate benefits of a shallow sort from your self-destructive cooperation.

For example, a women might feel very successful in our culture by totally sacrificing herself for her husband, family and community. She will garner many kudos for this and will feel good about herself. Meanwhile, on deeper levels in her psyche she may not be feeling good at all!  She may be legitimately wondering wondering why she and her happiness always has to come last after everyone else. So she has a common mistaken belief that it s better to give than to receive. And she may also believe that it is a mistake to complain when one is unhappy. And she may believe that the happiness of others is more important than her own. She may believe that self sacrifice is what God wants of her. She may belief that what others think of her is more important than how she actually feels--emotionally: that the secondary happiness she receives from the approbation of others can make up for ignoring her own desires and natural impulses towards primary happiness for herself.

But all of these are mistaken beliefs. They often lead to nurturing others and not the self. That leads to breast cancer. The truth is one must put oneself first. When one does follow one's own bliss others will benefit. Most women feel a natural urge towards  caring for their families, and happiness as a result of that--BUT--only as long as their needs are getting met too. There is enough to go around for everyone.

So in conclusion, we are primarily and eternally consciousness. The bodies we have are just equipment that comes with this particular reality. We live in many other realities. We have a body here to give us physical obvious feedback on how our spiritual health is. Any physical discomfort at all, tells us that we are out of alignment with spiritual truth. The worse the pain, or the more life threatening the illness, the more we are being shown that our spiritual health is seriously out of alignment with Truth.

But this should be seen as good news. It is nothing to fear. We will not be shown how bad we are. We will only be shown how much happier we could be if we allowed Truth in. And if we are happier, others around us will eventually be happier too.

For example, if a woman is not happy in her marriage, it may feel very frightening to her ego mind to think about that. She may want to cling to the outer form of the marriage--that is to stay married at all costs-- rather than to place a higher priority on her own deeper happiness. So her ego mind might fear looking at the emotional Truth of her unhappiness because she sees her husband as her source of physical/financial or social/emotional security--but the Truth is--he is not. The Divine being at the center of her SELF is the source of her well being and security--all kinds of security. By listening to her emotions and allowing them to lead her towards whatever makes her happy, she will find herself feeling more and more secure.  She can then stop looking to her husband for things he is not meant to provide.

Her husband may choose to be a channel the universe uses to bring her security sometimes. But he should not be relied upon to always be that security. He is just acting as a cooperative component of her own allowing of abundance. But at any time he might step out of that role and it will be immediately filled by something else. To be truly safe she needs to discover the deepest source of her own security--her own Divine Being--her God Self--The Great Mother at the center of her being.

So if this woman has perhaps made concessions to her husband in order to keep him around, so that she can feel secure. She may wait on him hand and foot. Or she may give him sex when he wants it but she does not. Or she might be working and putting him through graduate school when she actually is wanting to be home having babies. She may be turning a blind eye to his philandering. There are any number of things she may want that she feels she cannot have because he might not like it--and she erroneously believes she needs him for her basic happiness. She  may be keeping her emotional truth a secret (even from her self). This could leave her very angry and resentful towards him on a deep level. That anger and resentment may only get expressed obliquely as "accidents": she burns his toast continually, forgets to keep the check book balanced, or she might even get sick ("not tonight dear I have a headache") in order to avoid intimacy with him. But yet she still might cling to him. But some part of her is angry about  whatever she has given up in order to not rock the boat with him and to keep him around. And she might even feel guilty about what she has done to him covertly to express her anger.

In any case the only answer is emotional truth first with herself--and then with him. With that will come great relief. Then she can move slowly towards figuring out what it is  really "floats her boat." There will be no trade-offs when she comes into alignment with her deepest most essential self--a Self which IS TRUTH--DIVINE TRUTH.

This same sort of truth telling and subsequent actions based on that truth will set anyone free from any form of cancer or any other illness.